We've Got to Get Right Back to Where We Started From

Monday, March 14, 2011

quote

I opened one of my aunt Karen's books last night and a piece of paper fell out of it on which she had written -

Grief has changed me since you saw me last
and careful hours, with time's deformed hand
hath written strange defections
o'er my face

- Shakespeare

Friday, March 11, 2011

oh hey, it's a blizzard!

Don't see those around here too much.
Totally refreshing to come home to after 10 days of sun and blue skies and bodywork and awesome food and sun and fresh mountain air and soaking tubs and saunas and hikes and a little snow, complimented by all of that sun and blue skies.
I had an excellent time in santa fe, obviously. Skiing in Taos was very awesome, despite the fact that I did not have a proper coat or jacket or any ski goggles. Photos to come of me in my cotton puma jacket and sunglasses doing my best to brave the elements.
My cranial sacral teacher is awesome. He's Belgian and very funny and most excellent at what he does.
Anyway, I am in my bed now, after rescheduling my client this afternoon because we live in the arctic circle. I have 2 clients this evening that I think we can make happen but if one reschedules, I am rescheduling the other one.
I mainly want to blog about the young client I had last night, perhaps you all saw my fb status regarding her session which was great and quite entertaining. There was a LOT more said that I did not mention on there..
Her grandparents are regulars and they thought she would like massage so they paid for a half hour for her. She came with her grandma and initially was refusing the massage unless her grandma was in the room too, so I said thats fine, why don't you both go in and she can get on the table and then we'll see how she feels, so g-,ma got her on the table and then sat in the waiting area. I went in and asked her if she ever had a massage, told her what I thought I would do (her neck, shoulders, arms and back) asked her is she was ticklish and then asked her about school and stuff. She is seriously the chattiest person ever - she told me how she likes to massage peoples shoulders at school and asked me how I got a job at rivers edge. Told me all about her friend who steals stuff from her and the girl in her neighborhood who threatens her if she ever goes on that girls street. She asked me if I have a dad, I said yes, and she asked me if I wanted to know why she lives with her grandparents, i said sure, so she told me her short version of that undoubtedly long story (her words:)- her mom died in the bathtub, she had a seizure, hit her head and drowned. Her dad then had the 4 (i think) kids, and they were living in a truck in a really bad neighborhood, so her grandma took her dad to court and won. Her grandma told her dad that he could call or visit but he disappeared and they haven't seen him since. She said " I don't think they looked for him very hard". I asked her if she remembered her mom or if she was really little, she told me she was 2 and so she does not remember her moms voice, i said, yeah it is hard to remember stuff when from when you were 2 or 3. I told her that my mom died 3 years ago because she had a heart attack and she said " Oh! That is soooo sad!" I said yeah it is sad, and it was kind of weird because she was not sick or anything. She then told me how her mom died in the house that they live in and the bathroom is right by her room - I asked her how that was for her, was it weird and she said yes, sometimes she thinks she sees something in the bathroom but then it's gone and she has to pass the bathroom to go down the steps and she doesn't like that. She jumped from that topic to about 27 other topics, seamlessly - justin bieber, their cat and dog that died (she accused her uncle of killing them, he may very well have..), the cat and dog they have now, her 14 y/o brother who thinks that god is fake, the fact that she loves coffee (do you drink a lot of coffee?, I asked - no, i'm not allowed to anymore.. she had just mentioned how she is the shortest person in her grade despite being the oldest (when i saw her i thought she was 7 - seriously - she's almost 12) so I put in my 2 cents about how coffee will keep he from getting tall. I explained that i was going to have her flip over and was describing the face rest and how to use it, when she cut me off saying " oh, yeah yeah I saw that on Friends! I watch Friends". She asked abut my ear plugs and told me she wants to get her tongue pierced, and maybe her lip.
It was very cool to work on a kid, this kid is fairly unique, I would say. i have a new respect for her grandparents ( i never knew the story, just bits of it, and their other son, the uncle who lives with them, was banned from R.edge by my predecessor b/c they bought him a GC and he came in drunk and I guess he is just a slimy loser, based on that AND my other regular who is a neighbor who has an ongoing fued with them b/c the uncle vandalized her garage and something else (he is in his forties, this unlce..) west park dra- ma!
anyway, new respect for those 2 but I think they might be in a bit of trouble with this one... I certainly hope not, but she is a freaking fire cracker.
Switching gears completely, I just want to say that I am doing my best to read more rather than watching TV on instant netflix more (friday night lights, you guys, I'm in love with Tim Riggins and I keep googling pictures of Taylor Kitsch, who pays Riggins, which has made Perren, with his bad habit of using my laptop, very jealous, which is what you get for using my laptop).
Anyway I read Just Kids by Patti Smith, mainly because I did a paper on Robert Maplethorppe and censorship when I was a freshman in high school, excellent book. I think I am FINALY going to be able to finish body of work by christine montross, and can not wait to get harry potter #2 from the librbay, it is there waiting for me!
Vikki, I was thinking, couldn't you get books form the library and take a picture of each one as you finish, or, there must be some sort of virtual book shelf online... you could save some $.
Thats all for now, I just want to say, while there are few things worse than someone in your life turning christian, at least she has not also turned republican.

Wednesday, March 09, 2011

My nanny's gone christian

So, last fall, I found a neighbor who was interested in "nanny sharing" one day a week. It filled a need for us, of finding childcare for the days when I'm interning, and the family lives just 2 blocks from our house. Any hesitation I had in the beginning had to do with the other family, who seemed nice, but the mom is known as a bit of a whack-0, high-strung, disorganized, mean-to-the-help sort of woman. I know all this because a good friend of mine used to be her nanny.

But, we were in a bit of a bind, and this arrangement fit our needs perfectly. And I really liked the nanny. She's middle-aged, friendly and flowing, loving towards my son, caring, very likable. I got good vibes from her from the beginning.

Over the weeks and months, we bonded over our shared disdain for the "other mother" and tried not to gossip too much about the things going on in their house that we just didn't understand. She confided in me that she is lesbian, and has been with her partner for 25+ years, and how deep their love was for each other. I asked her advice about things relating to toddlers (she's been a nanny for 15 or so years). One day, about in December, she tells me that she and her partner have started attending the church that is within shouting distance of my house. Its known for its liberal views and is popular among the GLBT community, especially so because the pastor is openly gay. She told me, "I'm more of a spiritual person, but it feels nice to be part of a community."

I started to have some twinges of concern, but its not like I can shelter my child from religious people, they are all around. Some virulent strains have even infiltrated my extended family. So I know how to smile and nod and avoid comments when I don't feel like engaging in dead-end discussions about how fucked up organized religion is.

Then, about a month ago, the nanny requests to be my friend on our social networking site. Hmmm...I hesitated, but decided to accept her request. I was interested to see what she was posting, and come May, when my internship is finished, I probably won't be sending my son to her anymore, so at that time, I can always remove her from my list of friends.

So of course I checked out her page, and noticed A LOT of crazy christian postings about loving her new church, how awesome it was to be a new member, how she prays every day!, asking others to pray for her!, and so on. So, okay, she's gung ho religious now.

Our weekly interactions began to be peppered with her comments about loving church, my child being a gift from god, blah blah blah.

Then, today, I go to drop K off and WHAM! I'm accosted by the GIGANTIC cross hanging around her neck. Oh! Its Ash Wednesday, you say! Huh, somehow, I managed to completely block that from my personal calendar.

So I guess its now official: my nanny's gone christian. Its just so hard to find good help these days. I can only hope my cleaning lady doesn't turn on me next.